Fantastically Important Questions from Kids

As parents and teachers, we are constantly lecturing and asking questions and wanting kids to give a specific answer in a way that pleases us. I have been feeling lately that I need to set aside more time during my lessons for the kids to ask ME the questions.

I did sharing time in primary yesterday. The topic was on The Family: A Proclamation to the World.  I decided that I wanted to spend the whole time answering the children’s questions about families. I invited a member of the bishopric to come and give weight to the topic, help me answer the questions, and to show support for the primary kids. I passed out pieces of paper and let the kids write their own anonymous questions and put them in a bag. After blindly picking out a question, I first let the kids come up with some of the answers and then the bishopric member and I followed up. We only had time to get through a handful of questions so I brought the rest home and read through them. I wanted to get an idea of what the kids were wondering about. I loved reading them!

I thought I’d share some of their questions with you so that you’ll know what your kids don’t quite understand about families and God’s plan for them.

We had about 100 kids in church yesterday. Some of the kids said they didn’t have any questions, which was fine. Here is a summary of what I got:

18 cute little drawings and “I love my family” comments from the youngest children.

2 (only!) silly submissions. Could’ve been much higher 🙂

  • Eat! Your! Lunch!
  • Moooo!!!!  real loud

3 questions regarding the millenium and 2nd coming.
4 questions about how and why the earth was made.
3 questions about my specific family (how many people, etc).
1 question about fatherhood:
  • What is it like being a father? What’s the hardest part? What’s the most enjoyable part?
3 questions about how to be good members of our family and show love.

7 great questions:

  • Why do families have to go to church?
  • How do you know if you are doing something bad or good?
  • How did the church get made?
  • What does our spirit look like?
  • Are we Adam and Eve’s sons and daughters?
  • Why do we get baptized?
  • What is an ordinance?
6 trickier questions:
  • Does the prophet see the savior?
  • Why do kids get born with some difrint skin?
  • Why do some familys go to a different church?
  • Did Jesus ever marry to have kids?
  • Why are some familys apart?
  • Why is life the way it is?
4 questions about why we get married in the temple and how we can have an eternal family. 1 of those questions was simply “How do you get married? with a picture of a stick man and a stick woman kissing 🙂
7 questions asking about having children. 
  • Why was Gods first commandment to multiply children?
  • Why are children good?
  • 2 “How was I made?” questions.
  • 3 questions about why some families have lots of brothers and some families have lots of sisters. That was actually one of the questions I had to answer. First, I had a 5 yr old child try and answer it and he said, “Because sometimes moms lay lots of girls and sometimes she lays lots of boys!” This family had raised chickens for a time 🙂 I skipped the science lesson and went with the fact that the families we have here are earth are the same families we had in heaven before we were born. Heavenly Father placed us each in the family that was most able to teach us the things we need to learn while here on earth.    
By far the #1 question asked, at 12, was “Why are families important?”
How poignant this question became to our family personally last night as we learned of Grandpa Williams passing away. How blessed his family is for knowing where he is, that he is happy, and that we will see him again someday. 
Growing up, and still, every once in a while my dad will ask me point blank, “Do you have any questions?” It’s usually at some random moment like riding the train downtown. I am caught off guard so usually answer, “Uhhhh. Nooo?” But I appreciate what he is doing. He doesn’t want to assume that I understand everything perfectly. No one does. He wants to give me the opportunity to ask about something I don’t know the answer to. He wants to let me know that I have his undivided attention and can ask him anything. I appreciate the effort and will try to have a question ready next time 🙂
Since we were only able to answer a few of these questions during our allotted time we encouraged the kids to go home and ask their parents these same questions. I encourage you hold your own q&a sessions with your children. You’ll never know what your kids don’t understand until you ask! And when they ask, rather than being asked, they are more personally invested in the answer and will take it to heart. 
I love our primary kids!

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